程序员肯德基相亲被妹子拉黑……约会的正确打开方式了解一下
最近，程序员的相亲之路颇为坎坷……
继程序员穿特步相亲被拒后，又一程序员在肯德基相亲被拉黑！
八卦之魂熊熊燃烧
这位程序员愤愤不平发帖吐槽：
自己是程序员、工资1万+，第一次约会请女孩吃79元的肯德基套餐，却被拉黑，这女孩也太物质！他想不通，“节俭不对吗？”
一个看《战狼》、一个看《伯德小姐》的两人果然注定无缘走到一起……
然而吃完肯德基，男生自我感觉良好，于是有了以下对话……
这收钱速度，麻溜的，相个亲还净赚21块……
对此网友各抒己见，纷纷表示活该：
说到底，一场相亲能否成功，最重要的还是两人三观是否相合。
除此之外，互相尊重、充满诚意才能给彼此留下个好印象。
双语君（微信ID：Chinadaily）作为关心大家的小可爱，当然也要为你的约会操心！穿什么、说点啥，统统学起来！
穿什么·女生版
Always check out the venue online to get a feel for the setting! A great rule of thumb for the first date: Choose a color or outfit that you are often complimented on.
你需要在网上查看约会场地，选择合适的服饰。初次约会的穿衣准则是：选择你穿上经常会被夸奖的颜色或者打扮。
盛装打扮去和约会对象喝杯咖啡确实不太合适。我们来分场合告诉小仙女们，第一次约会这么 36 40867 36 14940 0 0 3493 0 0:00:11 0:00:04 0:00:07 3493。
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a casual daytime coffee date
日常咖啡厅约会
▌关键词：舒服、随性
The ultimate goal? To achieve the effortless “I just threw this on” vibe.
最终目标？那就是达到“我就是随便穿了一件”的效果。
Casual staples: Jeans, converse or flats, t-shirts, and sunnies are great options for a casual daytime setting.
随性装束：牛仔裤，帆布鞋或者平底鞋、T恤、太阳镜都是白天日常约会的好选择。
An easy dress with some sort of jacket (depending on your style—a leather cropped bomber, a cardigan, a denim jacket, etc.) is always a great outfit combination. You can do flats or wedges depending on the setting and what you’re most comfortable in.
简洁的内搭配上小外套（根据你的风格，可选皮夹克、羊毛开衫、牛仔外套等）是不错的搭配。可以根据餐厅风格或者个人爱好选择平底鞋或者坡跟鞋。
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a dinner date
晚餐
▌关键词：精致、舒适
Don’t be tempted to wear anything that you can’t walk in, eat in, or breathe in!
千万不要穿不方便走路、吃饭，甚至紧得让你喘不上气的衣服。
Stand out on a more formal occasion by adding a statement piece of jewelry or a fun accessory as a conversation starter.
你可以戴一些点睛的珠宝配饰，或者让人忍不住想评价一番的有趣配饰，这会让你更出众。
Comfort is key no matter what. If you feel good in what you’re wearing you’ll look good; confidence is everything. For a dressy dinner date, I’d go with a shift dress or skinny jeans, a silk camisole, blazer, and heels.
无论如何，舒适是最重要的。感觉舒服会让你看上去更得体。如果是较为正式的晚餐，我会穿一条直筒连衣裙或者一件紧身牛仔裤、一件丝绸背心、小外套和高跟鞋。
For a casual dinner, boyfriend jeans and a cute blouse or tee are always a great bet.
对于一般的晚餐，男友风牛仔裤、漂亮的衬衫或者T恤会是不错的选择。
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a post-work drinks date
下班喝杯东西
▌关键词：别太职业范儿
你师哥说：“下班我在公司楼下等你，一起去喝杯什么吧。”你就穿着你的工装赴约？不要……
Bring something to loosen up your work clothes a bit.
带些配饰让工装看着不那么职业范儿。
For a mix of office appropriate meets date night, opt for a dress or skirt with a feminine top under a jacket. (You can remove the jacket when you leave the office!) Switch that big work bag to a clutch for an easy transition to evening.
对于下班后的约会，可以在外套中穿一条裙子或者非常女性化的上衣配短裙。（下班时你可以脱掉外套）把工作背的大包换成手持小包，轻松上阵。
Don’t worry about being business casual! Work attire is totally fine. A classic, fitted blazer is perfect for the occasion when worn the right way!
如果你穿着商务休闲装，也别担心！工作服装也没问题。如果你搭配合适，那么经典的、合身的西装外套也一样OK！
以上这三个约会场合的穿搭，你都get了吗？如果还有什么其他建议，约会专家说：
Wear something that truly makes you feel like the best version of yourself.
穿一些让你感觉状态最好的衣服。
穿什么·男生版
聊完了小仙女约会穿搭，下面双语君（微信ID：Chinadaily_Mobile）就赶紧给男生们送上初次约会穿搭指南，可千万别因为穿错了衣服，错过心爱的姑娘哟。
咱们先来看看，在第一次约会的时候，有哪些雷绝对不能踩。
➤ 破洞衣服、新奇T恤就算了吧
Do not wear clothes with holes in them or novelty T-shirts with pit stains, unless a life of celibacy is what you are after.
千万别穿带洞的衣服或者带着污渍的新奇T恤，除非你想注孤生。
➤ 答应我，别穿皱皱巴巴的牛仔裤好么
Jeans may be fine for the occasion, but be sure they are wrinkle-free and that they fit well.
第一次约会穿牛仔裤未尝不可，不过千万别皱皱巴巴的，合身才行。
➤ 嗯，请正常系好裤腰带
If your belt buckle is below your crotch, you should not walk out of that door.
如果你的裤腰带都耷拉到胯下了，嗯，你就别出门吓人了。
➤ 太宽松、太贴身的都不行
Huge and oversized is not the way to go, nor is the too-tight and shiny approach.
超级宽松和超大尺码型的衣服也不是正确打开方式，当然了太紧身、闪闪亮的衣服也不行。
避开了上面的坑，双语君（微信ID：Chinadaily_Mobile）就要给各位男同学送上初次约会穿搭的正确打开方式了！
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清爽的头发
头发清爽干净，身上没有异味，认真刮过胡子，脸上不爆皮、不油腻腻，保持好的精神状态，一般都会给对方留下不错的印象。
One thing to remember when getting ready for a first date is that you should get a haircut and be sure to shave. Be sure your nails are trimmed and clean.
第一次约会一个注意事项就是一定要理发、剃须。指甲一定要剪短，指甲缝一定要干净。
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合适的衣服
男生第一次约会的时候衣服怎么穿，也要根据约会场所来选择。
♥ 喝咖啡、看电影
If you are meeting for a casual coffee, I would suggest a nice T-shirt (casual shirt, sweater in winter) and darker denim jeans with a nice shoe.
如果你们一起喝咖啡，穿一件得体的T恤（休闲款衬衫，冬天的话选择一件合身的毛衣），搭配深蓝色牛仔裤和一双合适的鞋子刚刚好。
T恤等最好选择黑白灰棕色等纯色款，面料选择柔软舒适型的，看起来清爽自然。
白衬衫是不会错的选择，午后阳光扫过白衣少年的发梢，分分钟俘获女孩子的芳心。
♥ 非正式的晚餐/午餐
If you are meeting for lunch or a low-key dinner, I would suggest your best fitting jeans or casual pants and a casual blazer or jacket over a pressed shirt with a great pair of shoes.
如果你们是共进午餐或低调晚餐，那可以选择最合身的牛仔裤或休闲裤，休闲外套、夹克套在熨烫齐整的衬衫外，穿一双好鞋。
♥ 正式场合
If you are going to a more formal location, such as a chic restaurant, the theater or ballet, a more formal dress code naturally applies.
如果你们要去更正式的场合，比如时尚餐厅、剧院或看芭蕾舞，就要穿着很正式了。
A nicely tailored suit and tie in a neutral shade such as navy or charcoal gray and a smart pair of shoes will have you looking the part of Mr. Right in no time.
裁剪合身的西装，藏青色或暗灰色领带，及一双铮亮的鞋子，你就是那个他了。
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干净的鞋子
鞋子是女生很注意的细节，所以一双干净合适的鞋子，非常关键。具体选哪一类的鞋子，要根据整体风格搭配。
Nice shoes are also a must. Whether you wear sneakers or wingtips, be sure they are clean and polished.
鞋子也很重要。不论你穿运动鞋还是尖头鞋，都要保持鞋子的干净和光亮。
A man, who takes care of his appearance, including a “small” detail such as footwear, is likely to take care of his apartment, his car, and in the future, her!
一个在意打理外表、包括鞋子在内的小细节的男性，也一定会照顾好他的房子、他的车，还有未来的她。
说了这么多，黄金法则只有一条：男孩子干净整洁就好！
But one golden rule is that no matter how casual your destination, looking clean, crisp, and put together cannot hurt. Even if you are just grabbing a slice of pizza or playing miniature golf, you should dress neatly.
无论你约会的场合有多么随意，看起来干净、清爽对你都不会有什么坏处，这是一条黄金法则。即便你只是去吃一块披萨或者打个迷你高尔夫，你都应该穿着整洁。
聊什么
不熟悉的两人第一次见面多少有些尴尬，怎样愉快地聊天，同时又能了解到对方的一些情况呢？
下面这些话题供你参考……
Your must-haves in a woman/man
想找什么样的男生/女生
First dates are all about determining whether or not you two make a good match.
初次约会的目的就是为了决定你们俩合不合适在一起。
During the first date, don't hesitate to ask what he/she looks for in the person he/she dates.
所以，不要犹豫，大胆问对方喜欢什么样的男生/女生。
This way you'll have a good idea as to whether or not you two should take things further. Of course, don't make any rash decisions if you don't fit the mold entirely.
这样你可以知道你俩该不该继续发展。当然如果你们不完全符合彼此的标准，也别太快做决定。
Future plans
未来计划
While you shouldn't pry about marriage and children, asking about his or her future plans can lead to a good conversation.
不要过早打听对方结婚生子的计划，但聊聊未来规划总是好的。
Compare your future plans and see if you two have similar or complementary ideas.
可以对比一下你们的未来规划，看看你俩是否有相似的计划。
Make sure the conversation isn't too focused on marriage and children, or else it can become too heavy for a first date.
话题最好不要过多聚焦于家庭和孩子，这对于初次约会来说有些“超纲”了。
Jobs
工作
Learning about someone's job can say a lot about the person.
通过一个人的工作，你能了解到很多事情。
What's your career path? Do you like what you do?
比如问问对方：你的职业规划是怎样的？你喜欢现在的工作吗？
These are all great questions that will keep the conversation lively. Maybe you two have similar career aspirations.
这些都是很好的聊天话题。说不定你们两有共同的职业理想呢。
Family
家庭
Don't get into the mindset that you're trying to inch your way into his or her family.
不要表现得好像你想介入对方的家庭。
Instead, ask simple questions, such as: Do you have any siblings? Are you close to your mom and dad?
只问些简单问题就好，比如，你有兄弟姐妹吗？你和父母关系很亲密吗？
Family questions are a good way to determine how family has shaped a person and whether or not their family structure is one that would eventually welcome you.
这些问题有助于你了解对方家庭是如何影响他的成长的，你也可以知道这样的家庭是否会愉快地接纳自己。
Personal favorites
兴趣爱好
Getting to know each others' favorite things is a good way to get a conversation started and keep it going.
了解对方的喜好是很好的开启话题的方式。
Ask about favorite movies, foods, music, celebrities, pets, books and more.
问问对方喜欢的电影、美食、音乐、明星、宠物、书籍等等。
Knowing someone's favorite things helps you to plan dates in the future and also further your conversations.
了解对方的喜好也有助于你们计划将来的约会内容。
Current events
最近的新鲜事
There's always something interesting and newsworthy going on in the world or even in your local neighborhood.
无论是在世界各地，还是在你身边，每时每刻都有妙趣横生甚至可以上新闻的故事在上演。
While you'll want to avoid political or overly religious topics, anything else is game.
除了政治或宗教色彩较浓的话题，其他聊什么都好。
This is the perfect opportunity to share your opinions back and forth.
这是很好的机会来交流你们对事情的看法。
Traveling
旅行
It's always interesting to talk about travel and vacations. Maybe you've been somewhere exotic and want to talk about it, and maybe your date has a travel story worth sharing.
旅游和假期总是有趣的话题。也许你曾经去过异域风情的地方，想和对方分享自己的经历，反之亦然。
You can also talk about future travel plans or places that the two of you dream of being able to visit one day.
也可以谈论未来的旅游计划，也许将来有一天你们俩可以一起去呢。
好了，双语君只能帮你到这儿了，祝大家约会愉快！
编辑：唐晓敏 李雪晴 左卓